The Key to Getting Over Any Breakup, Based on Science

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US Editorial Team Lead

We’ve all been there: you’re in a whirlwind romance then suddenly, something’s not working. You argue, you try to make it work, then eventually you break up. Breakups can be earth shattering if you don’t cope with them in a healthy way. A recent study published in the Journal of Neuroscience says the key to getting over any breakup may be to fake it until you make it.

“Breaking up with a partner is one of the most emotionally negative experiences a person can have, and it can be an important trigger for developing psychological problems,” study author Leonie Koban said in a statement. “In our study, we found a placebo can have quite strong effects on reducing the intensity of social pain.”

In a small study of 40 volunteers who had experienced an unwanted breakup within six months, researchers at the University of Colorado Boulder told participants to bring photos of their exes and photos of a same-sex good friend to their brain imaging lab. After being shown photos of their exes, photos of their friends, and being exposed to actual physical pain, brain scans showed that the brain’s pain center lit up similarly when exposed to physical pain and when shown a photo of their exes. This finding lends credence to the idea that the emotional pain of a breakup is completely scientifically real.

The researchers then gave half of the participants a nasal spray and told them that it “reduced emotional pain.” The others were told it was just a saline solution. For the participants who believed the nasal spray would ease their pain, the painkilling area of their brains lit up when re-exposed to photos of their exes. This, the researchers say, shows that having positive expectations can help one begin to get over a breakup.

“Just the fact that you are doing something for yourself and engaging in something that gives you hope may have an impact,” study author Leonie Koban said in a statement. “Doing anything that you believe will help you feel better will probably help you feel better.”

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