If you’re dating a Romanian and you want to do it right, there are several things that you have to keep in mind. The most important of all is to get to know their culture and appreciate the differences between yours and your date’s. To do that, here are a few tips about what you should and shouldn’t do while going out with a Romanian.
While most Romanians speak at least one foreign language, usually English, knowing some basic words in Romanian will really impress your date. You can learn on the internet, take classes, or even ask the person to teach you and why not, teach him or her basic sayings in your language. This will also help you immerse yourself in Romanian culture.
Romanians are regularly very open and willing to share their opinions about their country, food, traditions, and beliefs. However, don’t ask delicate questions about the other person’s life during the first dates and, especially, don’t bring to the table all the stereotypes you have in mind or have heard about. Get to know the person first, and keep these matters for later.
Romanians are friendly and well-behaved people, so they will expect the same in return, even more so when you’re dating them. As a man, you can open a door for a woman, ask her what she wants to order if in a restaurant, and give her your coat if she is cold. As a woman, listen to your partner and respect his beliefs and his views, and he will respect yours.
Being a foreigner is already a plus as Romanians are very attracted to non-natives and always curious to get to know other cultures. So, one good subject of conversation during your first dates would be about your country and your lifestyle. Yet, don’t make it a monologue. Show an interest in your date’s country, society, and customs, and you will get to know Romania better and get a deeper understanding of their way of life.
Listening to a Romanian is not only important during the first dates but during the whole relationship. And by listening, I mean showing empathy, understanding, and caring about their stories and emotions. Romanians appreciate this very much, as they are very good listeners themselves and are always interested in people’s life and feelings.
Romanians are usually traditional and very attached to their families, so even you are dating an independent Romanian, don’t underestimate the importance of the family in their life. Romanian society is family-centered, and family ties are usually strong, which is why the relatives’ opinions will also be very important. So, if the family likes you, you are one step ahead of winning the other’s heart.
You’re preparing your first visit to your Romanian’s girlfriend or boyfriend family and you don’t know how to handle it? Well, apart from being polite, there’s one Golden Rule: never say no to food. When a Romanian invites you to his or her house, know that before you arrived they took the time to prepare everything: from cleaning the house to cooking to dressing up. In traditional families, refusing to eat is considered impolite, while complimenting the food is always appreciated.
Whether you’re dating a woman or a man, they will always appreciate a clean and tidy home. This shows that you are organized and take care of yourself and the place you live. But more than that, it is a sign of respect that you made an effort to prepare the house for their arrival, which will be much valued.
Having your date meet your friends is very important for a Romanian, as this will give them clues about the type of people you hang out with and how you act when being with them. It’s also a great opportunity to show that you have serious intentions, and you want to integrate them into your life. The same goes for wanting to meet their friends; it means that you are interested in the people that surround them and you want to be a part of their life.
Even if your date might dress very comfortably for day-to-day life, dates are considered special occasions for which to dress up. That doesn’t mean you have to put on your best suit as a man or your best dress as a woman, but you do have to be careful that your outfit matches the occasion. If you don’t know what to wear when going to a play or to an anniversary, ask him or her, and they will be glad to give you advice.
As much as they will appreciate your life accomplishments or the fact that you are independent, that you have a good job and are talented, Romanians don’t appreciate when you brag about it. This will make you come across as an arrogant person. Be humble while speaking about your achievements, and always ask about your date’s accomplishments. Moreover, a sense of humor, especially the self-deprecating kind, is very important for a Romanian, so don’t be surprised if they laugh at themselves.